Musings....

I have had many thoughts running through my head this week and I figured that I would put down. I have friends who go out at night with friends and often want to know if I want to go. I have gone on occasion and I have even tried to set up a monthly girls night out. The things is, I have things at home that I want to be at more then any where else. My best friend is at home and there is some days I feel like we have no time to talk because we are so busy with the kids and our other commitments. I married my best friend and he is the one that I can't wait to talk to, share everything with, the one who helps me work out my problems, and anything else I that I need him for. I make time for my friends during the day, while I am at the kids activities I talk to my friends, and on the rare occasions I will go out at night. I get flack from friends and guilt trips for not going out weekly or when ever they feel like it but I only have a few precious years before my kids don't want to be hanging out with Mom and Dad. I am going to take full advantage of the time I have and not worry about what a few girlfriends have to say about it.

The other thing that has been on my mind is the tired line that I get from friends saying that I don't have to be at ALL my kids activities, Pat can go to a few with out me, he can take care of them just fine without me, and so on and so on. All I have to say is, if you have been to one of your kids activities when they look at you right after they do something really good, or have accomplished something they have worked really hard for, or were just proud of themselves for doing something, then you know why I go to all of my kids activities. That look they give that says look at that, I can do it Mom, I worked my rear off and it paid off, and all they want is someone to look right back at them like they are the rock star they feel like! That is my job, to make them feel like that rock star, and it feels good to be that person for them no matter what! Yes, Pat can be there and Pat can take care of the kids just fine, I trust him completely, but I am the Mom and Pat can't be that! I know that sometimes I need a break but I don't work so I have a break 8 hours a day during the week so I don't think that is a good reason either! Oh, and one more reason that will not get me to give up this time with my kids....I love it! I have a blast seeing them fight through fears, pain, and frustration to achieve their goals no matter how small other people think they are!

So everyone, please don't give me a hard time for not giving up my family time to hang out with friends. If you want to have lunch with me I will be glad to do that any day during the week but when my kids and husband are home then so am I. If you have small kids then I am glad to hang out at your house, even bring you lunch, and play with the kids and just chat in between the interruptions, I have been there, I don't mind. Lunch at Burger King or Mcd's play land is not a problem either! Just give me a call and we will figure something out!